Ever notice how many times we “don’t have time” to do the things we ought to do? No one ever had to “carve out” time for their addiction, for an affair, to watch porn, or for social media or video games. The fact is that we prioritize what we want to do.
As much as we try and blame our busyness for our prayerlessness, for not getting into the word, or for not being in church, the truth is that what we do reflects who we are and what matters to us. We can claim we were simply victims of circumstance or of our schedules — and you may even believe that…
Jesus told us differently.
She’s a wonderful woman. But that’s not why I love her. She’s beautiful, but that’s not it either. There are a million amazing things about her that fascinate me, but in the end that’s not why she has my heart.
I love her because I promised her I would.
I love her because doing so is my assignment from God.
My feelings, wants and passions are impermanent and unstable.
My promise and God’s call are not.
It’s Time. Very excited that tomorrow morning from 8:30 a.m. to 9:30 a.m. we will be playing this United Nations Free & Equal video titled “It’s Time” in Times Square on the Nasdaq Tower and Marquee as part of the launch of the Global LGBTI Standards for Business #Biz4LGBTI during the Opening Bell ceremony with Assistant Secretary General Andrew Gilmour.
I find that one of the greatest hurdles and fears I face in sharing the truth of my experience is that I will be made wrong.
I’ve had this tendency to become attached to being “right”.
This fear-based belief that I’m only safe when I am right, and that in a two-way conversation where two people have different opinions, that one of us must be wrong.
I want the person across from me to hear my feelings, hear my experience, hear my perspective, and validate me.
…and if they don’t, then my entire experience could fall into self-doubt, or second guessing…you would be surprised what a soul-spiral of insecurity and confusion can ensue.
Paradox can be terrifying. To let go of the false belief that there needs to be “right” and “wrong”. To let go of the assumption that a reality cannot exist where two conflicting believes and experiences can simultaneously be true.
I am learning how to embrace paradox. I am learning how to not box people into the category of being “wrong”, so that I can feel better about my own experience.
Because doing that…boxing people into categories of right and wrong, good and bad…may be great for validating my ego, but it’s pretty terrible for staying open-hearted in relationship…it’s pretty terrible for surrendering to the uncontrollability of life…and it’s pretty terrible for inviting a depth of intimacy with the people and world around me that infuses my life with profound synchronicity, love and magic.
So I am learning, how to validate my own experience without needing to be right. To have compassion and respect for those who may seek to disagree or invalidate my experience. And to not take things so fucking personally.
I’m learning. I’m loving. And I’m opening. Everyday, a little more trust permeates my being. It is safe, and so am I.
What if the most significant thing we could do to change our direct experience in dating and relationship was to change our energy? What if we could use how we feel in our own bodies as an intuitive compass for how to create profound connection and intimacy in our relationships?
This workshop is open to 12 people (6 men, 6 women) who want experience new depths of connection and desire-based communication in their relationships, and cultivate new awareness of how to align your energy within the dance of intimacy and attraction.
An interview is required to participate. Singles and couples are welcome. $100 for single, $175 for couple. PM me to schedule an interview.
Let me see if I understand this. Hollywood actors and insiders are protesting the state of their own industry, which they are entirely responsible for creating, and against behavior which they have either tacitly or passively supported as long as they’ve been a part of it, and are expecting the public to applaud them for their sudden willingness to oppose what until recently they enabled by either their open acceptance, or self-serving silence, and to view them as best suited for bringing change to it. Gotcha.
So cool to see so many show up to help Jared and Kinsey move into their new home, then watch the guys spring into action to fix a busted pipe that blew 5 minutes after getting to the new place (that would have flooded the basement had they not been there!). It’s awesome to watch the LifePointe family being knit together and to get to be a part of it.
Can’t believe this is only two days away!!! Many thanks to Pacific Standard Time Festival: Live Art LA/LA, REDCAT – Roy and Edna Disney/CalArts Theater and VincentPrice ArtMuseum for their incredible support in making this a possibility! Also, many thanks to the artists involved, first and foremost, Laura Aguliar herself, and the performers responding to her work: Irina Contreras Aisec Domingo Lunez Cindy Vallejo & Freddy Villalobos!
I knew I’d study psychology before I even knew what “psychology” was.
I felt a strong desire to understand why people would alter who they are and how they act based upon the people and environment they were surrounded by in the moment.
I remember thinking to myself, “Why would a person act one way here, but act entirely different here? Why would a person hide this truth about themselves with some people, but be completely forthright and open around others?”
These questions boggled my mind as a teenager. I personally was terrified of people. I identified as a total dork, and spent most of my time in social situations being silent because I was terrified of saying the wrong thing, looking silly, or being rejected.
It was safer to not let anyone know me than to risk allowing someone to know me and think I wasn’t good enough.
So looking back on those times, insanely enough over a decade ago, I see how I was destined to do this work of helping people remove the blocks to intimacy and connection.
Imagine what it would feel like if you just got to be “you”, all the time. Imagine what it would feel like to not hide anymore–to be open and honest about your feelings, your desires, your preferences, and your boundaries.
God, it is so fucking liberating, to just let myself be myself. It’s magnetic, and it creates a vortex for the things, the people, and the opportunities to come pouring into my life that my soul most desires.
But if we spend our lives hiding, or changing who we are to please our perception of what the company we keep desires, we send out mixed messages and false flags to the Universe about what we actually want, and what we are ready to receive.
You want the fast track to completely changing the quality and experience of every aspect of your life? Start by engaging in the simple and deeply confronting practice of just being honest in your relationships.
Say no when you mean no, say yes when you mean yes, express excitement when you’re excited, express sadness when you feel upset. Create integrity between what your inner world experiences and how your outer body acts.
Rinse, repeat, rinse, repeat.
Intimacy is an art form. And for me it’s a full time job.
Want to learn more? Let’s talk. <3
I don’t really want Trump out for mental health reasons, bad precedent, but the lack of filter that allows him to use words like ‘shithole,’ and inability to filter out or censor racist comments, really does seem like dementia. I want Trump out for collusion and obstruction, proven, and I want it done soon.